A Separation Or Divorce Rocks Your World And Can Devastate Your Kids.

by Christina McGhee

A separation or divorce is one of the most heartbreaking and painful events anyone can face in life.

If you’ve recently gone through one, life is probably feeling kinda sucky right now. All sorts of emotions may be coming to the surface: anger, depression, resentment, hopelessness.

And if you have kids, you can probably add “worried” to the list.

You worry how this is going to change their lives. Is it normal for them to be so sad? And when they’re so upset, you worry whether you’re handling it the right way. When they act out more than usual, throw temper tantrums, or behave disrespectfully should you cut them some slack? You worry when they don’t say anything at all or spend all their time in their room.

What do you do when they shut you out and won’t talk?

When your kids are hurting, YOU’RE hurting.

You ask yourself questions while you lay awake at night…

Did I make the right choice?

Am I ruining my children’s lives?

How will I get through this?

Will life ever feel okay again?

What if the fighting never stops?

Will I lose my kids?

It’s a fact: parenting effectively after divorce can be one of the most confusing and overwhelming things you’ll face in your life.

You don’t want to do anything to make it worse, or to make their lives more stressful or difficult.

You want them to grow up strong, happy, and resilient. You want them to feel a strong sense of family, and that they’re always loved, no matter what.

That’s why when you see them struggling, you feel incredibly guilty. They didn’t ask for any of this, but you feel helpless to change it.

CAN you make it better for them?

The good news is, you most definitely can!

You can make things infinitely better, regardless of how many unavoidable changes exist or how difficult your relationship is with your ex right now.

Because once you know what children NEED in order to gain resilience and to thrive in the face of a separation or divorce, you’ll see just how simple it is to give it to them every single day.

It doesn’t take much. You can make a big difference by making small, simple shifts in what you say to them, how you communicate with your ex, and the attention you dedicate to routine and consistency.

It’s such a relief to most parents when they find out that it doesn’t take much to stabilize life and help children feel secure about how their lives are changing.

Unfortunately, many parents don’t know how simple it is, or even what they need to do.

They’re so caught up in the day-to-day stressors and functioning in “survival mode,” that it’s hard for them to even IMAGINE that an easier way to co-parent is possible.

The Heartbreaking Mistake That Many Parents Make (But You Don’t Have To)

There are things you can do to make your children’s life MUCH better after a separation or divorce. There are also things you could unintentionally do that could make your kids lives much worse. Which path will you take?

While there are lots of things you can’t change about divorce, how life moves forward in your home is totally within your control.

But in the midst of the emotional turmoil, most parents don’t realize the difference between those two paths.

Instead, they make the heartbreaking mistake of thinking they CAN or SHOULD be able to handle the difficult situations that arise after a break-up or divorce on their own. While they feel unsure, isolated, and overwhelmed, the guilt and shame traps them into believing they should be able to deal with whatever divorce throws their way…especially when it comes to their kids.

Even though there’s nothing that prepares a person for being a divorced parent, they buy into the idea that a good parent should be able to figure it out.

Perhaps you’re in the same boat.

So you do you’re best to go it alone. Or spend your nights endlessly wading through Google searching for anything that will help you make it better for your kids.

But it’s a mistake to think you can just “wing it” when it comes to this critical moment in you and your children’s lives. Very few parents can. This is a highly emotional time, and it’s fraught with confusion, anxiety, and complexity.

That’s why you need clear guidance and practical advice, and you need it from an expert.

Just like you would in any critical situation: a medical emergency, a plumbing leak, a court appearance.

But the good news is, you’re in the right place. I can help.

Because after decades of experience working with thousands of parents, I have the expertise on what to do to solve just about any co-parenting question, challenge, or concern. And it all starts here…

The Solutions To Your Most Pressing Co-Parenting Challenges… In Simple, Practical Steps

I know firsthand about the many challenges that parents face after a separation or divorce, and how daunting it can all feel.

Not only have I coached and spoken to thousands of parents over 20+ years, and taught more classes than I can count on co-parenting through and after a divorce…

I’ve also stood in your kids’ shoes. I’m a child of a difficult divorce myself.

In addition, I met and married the love of my life, and not only said “I do” to him, but I also said “I do” to his two kids.

I learned a lot of what NOT to do from my parents, and I learned a lot about what TO DO from my bonus kids.

I have lived in the trenches, and I can tell you that things can get better.

You just need to know the small, simple shifts to make it easier—for yourself and YOUR kids.

That’s why I created my video program, Co-Parenting With Purpose: How to Raise Happy, Secure and Resilient Kids After You've Split Up.

My program will show you what you CAN control in order to create a “new normal” for your children, so they don’t struggle through this difficult time, feeling anxious and unsettled.

You’ll also get practical solutions to the most common co-parenting challenges:

• How to manage stress and overwhelm effectively so you don’t take it out on your kids
• What to say to your kids about your separation or divorce
• What to do when you think your ex is turning your kids against you
• How to handle an inconsistent co-parent who doesn’t keep their word and what to tell your kids when they’re disappointed
• The best strategy to deal with a difficult/hostile/inflexible ex when it comes to your kids
• When to use the court system and when to use alternatives, even when you can’t agree on what’s fair
• How to help your child when they’re angry/struggling/sad
• The best strategies, routines, and tips for making two-home transitions smoother

More importantly, you’ll learn what to AVOID at all costs when it comes to your relationship with your ex and co-parenting, so that you don’t unintentionally make it harder for your kids than it has to be.

This program is comprehensive, it’s easy to follow and it will allow you to feel more confident about co-parenting.

You can start watching it in a matter of minutes here:

This program is user friendly and meets you where you’re at, AND I believe it can make a big difference in your life and in your children’s lives.

There is hope, and there is help.

I’m so grateful to be able to offer it to you in this way.

Wishing you and your children the very best,

P.S. Here’s the secret nobody tells you about co-parenting…it’s really hard to get the perspective you need to make the best possible choices for you and your kids when you are caught up in the daily grind. Ever heard the phrase, “It’s hard to see the picture when you’re in the frame”?

It’s so true. I’ve been there and I can’t tell you how many times I wished I had someone who could help me see the bigger picture and make better choices.

While it may not feel like it right now, things can get better. You don’t have to spend years struggling to get to the other side.

Whether your kids grow up in one home or two, you can raise healthy, happy, well-adjusted children. And I can help you get there.

In Co-Parenting With Purpose, you’ll find easy, step-by-step advice and tips that you can start putting into action TODAY.