The Secret Emotional Signals Your Body Is Giving You (and What That Means For Your Relationship)

by Felice Dunas

Your body knows more about your relationship than your conscious brain does.

No matter what kind of relationship you’re in - casually dating, long-term commitment, marriage… your body knows how it’s going… and it’s practically screaming it.

Let me explain.

When your relationship is good… when you’re happy, comfortable, excited about the future… your body knows it. It’s flooded with desire.

You’re excited about the prospect of intimacy with your partner. You’re looking forward to sexual activity.

Your body knows that it will get all the physical, mental, and emotional benefits from sex.

But when your relationship isn’t going as well as your brain wants to think it is…

Your body already knows.

The desire just isn’t there as much. You’re more shut down, more likely to be turned off. You’re uninterested in having sex… because your needs just aren’t being met.

And here’s the thing: you’re missing a critical opportunity to repair your relationship. You’re missing a crucial chance to relish in your partner, revel in your relationship, and rest in your safe space.

Consider this:

You’re taking a hike and in front of you is a large canyon. On the other side - your car.

There’s a bridge in front of you. It’s old and it’s rickety - it’s missing a few boards, swaying in the wind. The rope that’s holding it up looks like it was hand-woven and… not very well.

Your conscious brain is telling you that the only way to get to your car is to cross this bridge. If you don’t cross this bridge, you’re going to be stuck on this side of the canyon.

But what’s your body telling you?

It is NOT on board with getting on that bridge, is it?

But you take that same bridge, add in some steel cables, some brick footpaths, maybe a few concrete pillars…

And all of a sudden, your body is on board… even though your conscious brain is still saying to cross the bridge.

This is a pretty extreme example (because really, who would walk across that bridge?!) but I’m using it to illustrate a point: that your body picks up on things that you’re simply not aware of.

Now, your body’s reactions are controlled by your subconscious brain - the part that you don’t realize is doing a lot of the grunt work in the background.

But your conscious brain - the part that works to use logic and reason… it’s not picking up on the same signals that your unconscious brain might be.

Which means your conscious brain might be thinking that everything is hunky dory in your relationship - you get along, you enjoy each other’s company, and your sex life is decent enough…

But your subconscious has picked up on all the signs that you’re missing.

Some people call this a gut feeling.

Your subconscious or gut feeling is saying that there’s something missing. There are needs not being met. And that’s a turn off, so it’s time to hit the brakes on sex.

So what do you do?

Just keep going along like your subconscious doesn’t know what it’s talking about?

Or is there, perhaps, a better way?

Your Body Will Help You Avoid The Downward Spiral

Many relationship failures don’t have an exact moment that can be pinpointed as when things started to go downhill.

Think about it. If you had a relationship end… did you just wake up one day and say “nope, I’m all done”?

No. You gradually became disillusioned.

You slowly drifted apart.

Things happened you weren’t even aware of… and if you were - you could have stopped it in its tracks.

The downward spiral is NOT inevitable in an otherwise healthy relationship. It’s NOT unavoidable.

But to stop it in its tracks… you have to be able to spot it in the first place.

Because we’re so used to tuning out our subconscious mind - we’re used to ignoring it when it’s throwing up flags all over the place…

We have to practice being in tune with our bodies to make sure we’re not merrily rolling through life while it spirals out of control.

Practice knowing when your body is telling you that it’s uncomfortable… even if you can’t pinpoint why.

Why you’re not enjoying sex the way you used to. Why you’re not wanting it as frequently or as intensely.

Why you’re not connecting with your partner like you want. Why you’re not completely, fully satisfied to the point where you’re flopped on the bed (or couch, or floor…) in bliss, brain empty of all thoughts but “WOW! Let’s do that again!!”

Why your physical connection to your partner seems to be… missing something.

They ARE signs that your body is giving you that something isn’t right… and it could be your relationship.

How much physical space are you putting between you and your partner? If you notice yourself leaning away, facing opposite directions, or not automatically reaching for their hand where it was normal before… this is your body telling you that your relationship needs attention.

Whatever your body is telling you - the key to increasing the emotional closeness you feel to your partner ALSO involves increasing the physical closeness.

And yes, I mean sex.

What Good Sex Reveals About Healthy Relationships

So why are we having better sex when our relationship is at its healthiest?

And what’s more… how does having better sex make our relationship better?

One word. Communication.

Communication is, frankly, at the root of many unhealthy relationship dynamics… but it’s also at the root of the healthy ones, too.

And when you feel comfortable, safe, and cared for enough to communicate your sexual needs to your partner… that’s the biggest sign of a healthy relationship you can look for.

And your body knows this. This is the part that your body reacts to. If you’re comfortable, it says that you’re good to go for desire. But if something is missing… it holds back that desire.

And sex is at its best when you desire it, you’re satisfied by it, and you want to do it again.

But here’s the key (and it’s found in a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships) - “sexual satisfaction hinges in part on effective communication, and communication problems are associated with sexual dysfunction and/or dissatisfaction.”

This goes both ways!

When you’re sexually satisfied, you’re more communicative with your partner. And when you’re more communicative with your partner, you’re more likely to be sexually satisfied.

Another study shows that BOTH romantic love and sexual desire impact not only how often you have sex, but how satisfying it is.

But the first goes even further to find that overall relationship satisfaction is enhanced by communication - about both sexual and non-sexual topics.

Which means not only does talking about your needs regarding sex help you have better sex… it helps you have a better relationship.

Yet another study concluded that their findings highlighted a need for increasing sexual satisfaction in order to increase marital satisfaction.

So let’s recap:

• If you want to be happier and more satisfied in your relationship, it’s important to have better sex.
• If you want to have better sex, it’s important to communicate your sexual needs to your partner.
• If you want to communicate your sexual needs, you need to feel safe, comfortable and happy in your relationship.

This is the stuff your body already knows… I’ve just given you the science and logic so your conscious brain can get on board with it.

So what now?

How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs to Your Partner

I’ve been helping women and couples improve their sex lives for about 40 years. I’ve traveled the world, spoken in dozens of countries to thousands and thousands of people. And in my years of experience, issues with sex and sexuality boil down to four barriers:

• Physical - understanding the anatomy and process of sex and pleasure in a way that’s accessible, non-judgemental, and comprehensive… so you FINALLY get all the answers to the questions you’ve been quietly asking yourself for years…
• Emotional - including how our bodies carry trauma with us long after it’s inflicted… and how the wounds of our past affect us in ways we don’t even understand…
• Mental & Psychological - so you can understand how the stories you’ve been given (through your experiences and what you’ve been taught) affect the attitudes you have toward it…
• Attraction - because understanding how you choose your sexual partners is essential to your sexual self-esteem (and once you build your self-esteem, you’ll be more equipped to choose your partners in a new and healthier way)…

And if you want to be able to communicate your sexual needs to your partner and reap all the benefits of an incredible sex life…

You’ve got to make sure all four of those barriers are out of the way.

That’s why I’ve taken my almost 40 years of experience helping women understand their own sexual satisfaction - my life’s work traveling the world and working with thousands of women and couples - my deep understanding of behavior, the human body, and ancient principles - and distilled them into one program.

One program that will help YOU understand your body, overcome these barriers, and finally get in touch with your sexuality so you and your partner can have a better sex life and a better relationship.

This is what will help you strengthen an already-strong relationship… and repair one that’s started the downward spiral that your body’s been screaming about.

In my experience, this is the single-most transformative program you’ll have the opportunity to take.

This is the program that will:

• Build unshakeable self-esteem that comes from deeply connecting with yourself and intimately knowing your own needs…
• Give you the tools and skills you need to have better sex, including understanding your body and what it’s capable of…
• Help you find the words to communicate with your partner by teaching you some of the most essential basics of what good sex includes…
• Allow you to overcome the mental blocks that are holding you back - whether it’s from your past sexual experiences or your beliefs surrounding sex…
• Put YOU in control of your sexual pleasure so you’re able to be an enthusiastic participant in your own sex life…

Because here’s the thing:

The higher your sexual self-esteem… the more desirable you’ll feel, and the more you’ll desire your partner. Your relationship will be stronger and more fulfilling because you’re contributing to the sexual aspect of your relationship in a renewed way.

Which means your ability to understand and control your sexual pleasure will ultimately lead to a better relationship… which will lead to higher sexual satisfaction.

It’s a continually improving cycle that starts with YOU understanding yourself and what makes you feel good.

It starts with YOU putting yourself first, understanding what you want, and having the knowledge and tools to go find it.

This is my entire life’s work on awakening your sexuality and using it to transform your relationship - and your life.

I’ll show you:

• How your body remembers your past (even when you don’t) and exactly how it’s affecting your every experience now… because when you understand where obstacles come from, you’re more able to overcome them…
• The physical introduction you never had to your anatomy- from your vulva to your vagina (and all the little places in between)… INCLUDING what the function of each part of your genitals is for and how it can help you have consistently better sex…
• A full breakdown of the health benefits of sex and how you can increase those benefits with every single sexual encounter (whether or not you have a partner)…
• How attraction is both evolutionary and determined by your life experiences so you can consciously hold your partners to a higher standard…
• The difference between your sex life and your sexuality… and how one influences the other so drastically that it’s impossible not to connect the two…
• My must-watch Thrusting Tutorial will show you how different movements affect the nerves in your vagina… so you have almost a step-by-step tutorial to heighten your pleasure and direct your partner (or use yourself) to feel good every time…
• The process of seduction and how to become an active participant in your own seduction… which heightens the entire experience AND allows you to retain control over your sexual satisfaction…
• The science behind the orgasm so it’s no longer a magical, mystical thing but a process that you can discover and repeat, reliably, every single time… because The Elusive O is a thing of the past…
• The essential part to your sexual self-care that you might be avoiding - and how you can make sure you’re always healthy, sexually and physically…
• And much, much more.

I’m handing you the tools you need to build up your relationship, have better sex, and finally take control of something that women have felt out of control with for generations.

I’m handing you the opportunity to regain your power, build your self-esteem, and have the confidence in yourself and in your relationship to be fully and completely satisfied.

I’m handing you the opportunity to turn that rickety old bridge into something strong and sturdy and steady.

All you have to do… is take it.

Warmly,

P.S. Whether you’re aware of it or not - your body knows when it’s not satisfied.

The good news is that your satisfaction is now within your control.

You can be the woman who communicates openly with her partner, who isn’t afraid to ask for what will feel good, and who can lean into the intimate relationship that’s only improved with a fully satisfying sex life.

Whether it’s your mental or emotional roadblocks holding you back, or a simple lack of knowledge about what works for you…

It’s absolutely possible to overcome it.

I want to show you how great sex is a win-win for everyone involved - and the drastic change you’ll see in your relationship because of it.

Are you ready?