Are You Aching To Find Love?

Here’s What’s Blocking You from Attracting Your Soulmate. Here’s a surprising reason why you’ve been working so hard to find love but you’re still single.

By Dr. Margaret Paul10 min read
November 29, 2025
woman aching to find love

You ache to find love and share love with a beloved.

There’s almost nothing else you want more than a soul-satisfying, deeply gratifying love.

That’s why you work so hard at making this a reality. You try online dating. You agree to blind dates. You go to MeetUps. You sign up for workshops and seminars.

How to Energetically Open Your Heart to Love

Being able to manifest what you want in life has to do with your frequency—which is affected by your thoughts, beliefs, actions and even what you eat.

In my program, Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom, you’ll learn the exact practices and strategies that will raise your frequency and keep it high. When you raise your frequency, you open your heart to love. And when you open your heart, the right person will show up to share love with you. Learn more here:

You name it. You’ve done it.

So why isn’t all this work paying off? Why can’t you seem to make it happen already?

Where is your soulmate?

There are certainly lots of important components to attracting love. But there is one often-overlooked secret that stops love from entering your life no matter what you do:

And that’s your emotions.

Yes, your emotions.

And I’m not talking about expressing your emotions to the people you date, or making sure you’re coming across as a cheerful, easy going person.

I’m talking about how the emotions you FEEL day-to-day about the state of your love life are actually blocking you from attracting your soulmate.

Here’s how it works:

Are You Excited, Happy, Anxious, Empty, Depressed, Hurt, Angry or Fearful?

Your emotions are the clue to whether or not you’re able to effortlessly attract (or manifest) what you want in ANY area of life, but particularly in love.

If you feel alive and excited about life, life usually flows and you are amazed at how things just seem to “work out”…

Opportunities to do exactly what you had been hoping to do “magically” arise. You meet someone who knows just the right person. Money flows into your life from surprising sources. You have a problem and the answers “just appear” in an article, a book, a podcast.

When you feel anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, fearful, numb, empty, or alone, you’re probably focused on getting love and avoiding pain. And you’re more likely to be struggling with one challenge after another…

The person you liked so much ghosts you. Your partner picks a fight. You find out your spouse is having an affair. You message dozens of people on an online dating site and no one responds.

Which leads you to feeling even MORE anxious, depressed, hurt, angry. These “heavy” emotions tell you that you’re not being loving to yourself or others. You’re indulging your unloving thoughts and behaviors. You’re operating from a low “frequency”.

And you can’t manifest what you want when you’re in this state of low frequency.

Your Rate of Frequency Is Directly Related to the Ease In Which You’re Able to Manifest What You Want

Frequency is the rate of which your energetic field vibrates.

The higher the vibration, the more you’ll attract or experience positive emotions and experiences.

The lower your frequency, the more you’ll attract or experience negative emotions and experiences.

You see, when your intention is to be loving to yourself and others, and you are behaving with compassion, gratitude, appreciation and kindness toward yourself and others, you are operating from a high frequency.

When your intention is to try to be safe through having control over getting love and avoiding pain, your frequency will be low. Your behavior will be judgmental, angry, blaming, withdrawn, compliant, or resistant.

Therefore, if you find that you are often resentful of others’ behavior, constantly worried about how long you’ve been single, blaming outside circumstances for why you’re not where you want to be in your love life… it is a sign that you’re operating from a low frequency, which also means you’re being closed-hearted.

It is this closed-heartedness or low frequency that can prevent the manifestation of your desires.

It’s Like The Door To Your Heart Is Closed and Nothing Loving Can Get In

It is as if the energy of manifestation hits the closed door of your heart and bounces off with nowhere to go.

So even though you know you WANT to attract love, find your soulmate, bring more intimacy and understanding to your marriage—you can’t seem to do so.

You keep going around in circles. The harder you try, the harder it gets, and the more angry, fearful (etc.) you get.

What may seem incredibly odd to you is that you can manifest well in one area of your life but not in other areas. The answer is simple—it’s because in that one area you are open to learning and taking action regarding what is in your highest good.

You’re being proactive, setting good boundaries, taking positive action steps. You’re being loving with how you treat yourself.

But in the area of love, you’re probably not as open to learning and you’re not taking loving action regarding what is in your highest good. You’re blaming and complaining, people-pleasing, or letting people walk all over you.

This is all low frequency behavior!

There’s only one way out of this energetic dead-end, and that is learning how to raise your frequency despite your external circumstances, in order to open your heart and break this cycle of disappointment and negativity.

How to Raise Your Frequency In Order to Manifest Everything You Want In Life, Especially Love

Our emotions are a completely accurate guide of whether we are operating in high or low frequency, or whether our heart is open or closed.

If you’re stuck in a low frequency about a certain aspect of your life, no matter how much you say you want to change, it’s going to be very difficult for you to make that change.

You’ll think it’s “too hard” to make a change. You’ll make excuses about why you can’t leave your terrible relationship. Or if you’re single, you’ll claim that you don’t have time to date right now. This is just your wounded self trying to assert control and keep you “safe”.

But you’re not “safe” because operating from low frequency can cause you decades of unhappiness.

That’s why learning how to raise your frequency is one of the most important things you can do to create the life and love you dream of.

That’s what my program, Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom, is all about. It’s about what to do to RAISE your frequency, so you can finally have the kind of love you’ve been dreaming of:

Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom is a 30-day video program, in which you’ll receive a daily video from me along with written materials and a daily action step that will show you, step-by-step and day-by-day, how to raise your frequency. Specifically, you’ll know how to raise your frequency through:

  • The foods you eat
  • Your daily exercise and activities
  • The beliefs you hold about yourself and others
  • Your sleep routine
  • The thoughts you allow in your mind
  • The actions you take that are loving to yourself and others

As you follow my guidance and take the simple actions I recommend to raise your frequency, you’ll get closer to manifesting what you want in love, whether that’s meeting your soulmate or finally connecting with your partner in a way that feels intimate and fulfilling.

It’ll feel as “magical” and effortless to attract that kind of love into your life as it’s been to attract career opportunities, friends, money…whatever it is that comes “easily” to you.

Raising your frequency has other benefits as well:

You’ll begin to trust your feelings, worry less, enjoy greater physical health, and fine-tune your intuition.

That’s because when you learn to raise your frequency, you’re also learning how to be more loving to yourself and others.

You can get started with my Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom program today by going here:

I hope you’ll decide to join me on this 30-day journey to raising your frequency and unlocking your ability to manifest the life and love of your dreams.

Blessings,

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Best-selling author and co-creator of the six-step Inner Bonding process
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